Perspective

Perspective

It’s not about denial; it’s about choice of focus. Would I rather my husband still be alive? Of course. 100%. But it could have been so much worse. What if he’d died 5 years ago, when the kids would have been even younger? What if he’d died half an hour earlier, in...
What I choose to grieve

What I choose to grieve

Last night, I dreamt I was at the edge of an ocean, vast and boundless. Although there were no waves, the surface was choppy and opaque. I was afraid it was cold, and I was anxious it might get too close. ***** I have been avoiding my Cognitive Grief, trying not to...
Positivity: Is yours Toxic, Fearful, or Healthy?

Positivity: Is yours Toxic, Fearful, or Healthy?

This past year has been very challenging, to say the least. Unfortunately, I’ve seen some people in the personal development sphere acting like all you need to do is Think Positive, as if breaking down and struggling with fear and grief and anger is some kind of...